Live your dream.

Words from Emma Waton 妞新聞

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“I don’t have perfect teeth, I’m not stick thin. I want to be the person who feels great in her body and can say that she loves it and doesn’t want to change anything.”
我的牙齒不漂亮(艾瑪華森曾經戴過牙套矯正牙齒)、我的身材也不算瘦，但是我想要當一個不管自己身材怎麼樣、都能愛自己、接納自己、不隨便改變自己的人。

“I’ve probably earned the right to screw up a few times. I don’t want the fear of failure to stop me from doing what I really care about.”
我曾經搞砸過很多事情，但是我不想讓恐懼成為阻礙我做我真正想要做的事情的絆腳石。

“I don’t want other people to decide who I am. I want to decide that for myself.”
我不想讓旁人來決定我是誰，我要為自己做決定。

“All I can do is follow my instincts, because I'll never please everyone.”
我唯一能做的就是跟著我的直覺走，因為我不可能取悅每個人。

“It sounds like a cliche but I also learnt that you're not going to fall for the right person until you really love yourself and feel good about how you are.”
這聽起來也許很老套，可是如果你學不會「愛自己」、欣賞自己，你永遠也遇不到對的人。

“My idea of sexy is that less is more. The less you reveal the more people can wonder.”
「性感」之於我，就是「少即是多」，你揭露的越少，大家的遐想空間越多、對你的興趣也越高。

“I truly, truly believe that beauty is something that comes from within.”
我深信一個人的美麗來自於內在。

“I think that it is very important if you know what you want, understand where you are heading towards, and try your best to get it. It is only when we use our hearts to do it, and fall in love with what we are doing, then can we really get real determination.”

知道自己要的是什麼、了解自己的目標是什麼很重要，因為這樣你才會發自內心的去喜歡自己正在做的事，並且下定決心去達成你的目標。



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13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/13-things-mentally-strong-people-dont.html

Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life. Check out these things that mentally strong people don’t do so that you too can become more mentally strong.

1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves
Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.

2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power
They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. They don’t say things like, “My boss makes me feel bad,” because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.

3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change
Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt.

4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control
You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.

5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone
Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy.

6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks
They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.

You may be interested in this too: 14 Things Positive People Don’t Do

7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past
Mentally strong people don’t waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve learned from it. However, they don’t constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.

8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over
Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they don’t keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better decisions in the future.

9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success
Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people’s success in life. They don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success.

10. They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure
Mentally strong people don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.

11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time
Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don’t fear silence. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive. They enjoy their own company and aren’t dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.

12. They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything
Mentally strong people don’t feel entitled to things in life. They weren’t born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the world must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities based on their own merits.

13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results
Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground, mentally strong people don’t expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.

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每個人的個人特質都不一樣，找到認同是一種福氣，找不到也不要太介懷。
最重要還是要學懂怎樣與自己相處，擁抱自己與生俱來的特質，
並將這些特質，轉化成個人的本錢和力量。

真的不需要太在意外在的一些所謂普世價值，
否則只能在羨慕他人、懷疑自己中過日子。這不划算。

By Nancy Liao

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拒絕揹負一段親密關係，直到撿拾完每一個遺落的自己----Season